I was born in England into a big, loving family. I moved to Australia for love in my 20s and continued my career in finance with success. I led a great life, but it was one without passion.
Then I had a baby. I found it really hard. Previously celebrated as an investment banker, the work I was doing now seemed to be tougher yet invisible and uninteresting to most of the world. I was lonely, having never been lonely before. I was overwhelmed. I felt like someone had asked me to do a job that emphasised my weaknesses and few of my strengths. And I didn't feel like I could shape the role to fit my skills, as you would in a normal job; I felt pressure to accept it as it was. To my husband, I used the analogy of announcing to all men, when they hit 30, that they become accountants, regardless of their skills, previous experience and ambitions. And also telling them that with this job comes no money, breaks or support team, little influence and no allowance to question the terms or improve the conditions.
At the same time, I was watching other mothers, listening to them and noticing how the world viewed them. I started to feel strongly about how much mothers give, how efficient they are, what a potentially powerful force they are in our community and yet how uncelebrated and untapped this force is. What mothers were giving and doing in their family was often going unacknowledged, which was affecting their self-esteem, the level of support they received and their ability to look after themselves.
I saw what could be: a mother being supported to fulfill her potential, whether that be to spend time doing things she loved, starting her own business or thinking about what her dreams were. This is what I call empowerment.
I saw a healthier balance between the 3 roles of most mothers: Mother, Lover and Me.
Now I am devoted to empowering mothers through The Mother Movement.